It seems like common sense, but when you’re in the heat of the moment, the logic goes out the window.
I’ve dated in Southern California and NYC. Regardless, I’ve been a part of some of these, some I have heard from stories told to me, and some I have witnessed as an innocent bystander. There are plenty more, too many to list, but, these were pretty much a standard for me. I don’t need it now because I’m happily married. In no particular order:
- DO call her and ask her for a date. Don’t text.
- DO NOT call her on Thursday night or Friday to go out…she’s made plans and if she doesn’t have any she wonders why it took you all week to reach out.
- DO have something planned. DON’T ask her. It shows that you were thinking of her as you planned this great date. Now that doesn’t mean take her to see a showing of Die Hard followed up with drinks at a dive bar with a Metallica cover band. You should somewhat have a clue of what she likes. If you don’t, save yourself the time and money and just go to the bar with your buddies.
- When getting into a cab or Uber, you go in the car first. The lady is wearing something nice and you don’t want her to go in as if she’s stealing 2nd base. By going in first and sliding across, she has an easier time getting in.
- If you drive, get your ass out of the car and open the door for her. Getting back in, open the door for her, let her get in and situated, then close the door.
- If I genuinely had a good time, I will reach out to the girl the next day. None of this waiting 3 days crap. When it comes to communication, do not leave her in the dark. At the same time don’t be Jon Favreau from Swingers. For those of you that haven’t seen the movie, Jon’s character meets a beautiful girl at the bar, they exchange numbers, and he ends up leaving tons of messages on her answering machine thus creeping her out. I did the same thing, except I was on a first date with a gorgeous blonde and we hit it off. She was going to Ireland for a month and she said she’d call me when she got back. I was Jon Favreau. I saw Swingers for the first time about one month after that incident.
- Don’t bring flowers on the very first date.
Grazie! Be safe.
Froi
